What is Your Relentless Pursuit? Mine is TEDxToronto

I have always wanted to speak at TEDx Toronto. So every year I applied via their speaker application form. Why? Well there are many reasons.

– I have a message, story, brand and voice that can impact a million hearts.

– I have built a brand around TEDx having spoken at 4 other events.

– TEDx Toronto, for most Canadians, is the biggest and best one in our country. It’s the ‘big show’.

– Many of my colleagues have been able to use the event a platform to greatness in their career, speaking circuit and getting their message out there.

One of my good friends Drew Dudley spoke several years back. He only spent 6 minutes speaking on Lollipop Leadership, but it was momentous. Eventually that talk made it to the TED.com site. Now he has 1.4 million hits and a successful speaking career travelling around the world. His example, like many others I have seen, inspires me.

I have applied a few times and have had the honour of my friends nominating me.  In fact those nominations, along with Drew’s talk was around the first time I was introduced to the power of TED talks. 3 times the charm? Not really, but hey I have always been one to embrace failure. At least I have been able to go to these events as a delegate and share my ideas and use my social media influence to promote and support the others.

Last year I thought the theme was PERFECT for me: ”The Choices We Make’. I mean I have made some pretty ballsy and hard choices about my career, my family, my personal life, where I live, my business and much more. This year the theme is ‘Relentless Pursuits’. Oh man I love it too! Well that one also fits very nicely. Although it should fit nicely with all of us. You’ve heard me say often “Fight for your Life! If not you, then who? If not now, then when?”

What have I relentlessly pursued? The same things I mentioned above. The new thing I have been pursuing these days is health and wellness with my new #FitInMyLife campaign. Because I do want to be fit in my life and health living needs to fit in my life.  I also am relentless with creating deep authentic connection and helping the ‘lost leaders’ with my personal Why. But today, I want to say my main Relentless Pursuit is speaking at TEDxToronto. Part of that relentless pursuit has been speaking at 4 other TEDx events — TEDxUWO, TEDxLaurier (I hosted too), TEDxUTSC and TEDxRichmondHill. Another part of this relentless pursuit is asking for your help.

I am currently working on getting myself nominated for the next TEDx Toronto event! I will apply again, like I did the past few years. I am excited to share talk ideas on a few ideas such as ‘The Pursuit of Balance”, “Searching for the Best Hug” and “Fighting the Parent Values Gap to not become the Values Trap” and many more.

But this time I need your help. If my messages, talks, connection or work has ever inspired you, helped you, supported you, I would be honoured and grateful if you could consider nominating me via the link here. For everyone who isn’t familiar with my work — I am a 4 time TEDx speaker, author and contributor to the Huffington Post. My personal Why is “There are Lost Leaders Everywhere” and my Mission is to “Discover, Inspire and Develop Leadership in Gen X&Y. Much of my work is giving back, whether its through my Raeallan intern team, starting up Humans of Canada, or planning the large scale Discover Your Personal Brand conference on Aug 16. I do it because YOU are my Why, my Mission, my Vision.

I thoroughly enjoy public speaking and motivating young people and hope to continue to do it for as long as I can. If you guys would like to help me continue my passion and serving others please nominate me here. The deadline is June 30, so I apologize for the short notice. Luckily the form is pretty short.

Also, here are two of my past TEDx talk I have done to give you an idea what I am all about. What is interesting to see is how I have evolved as a speaker, even from 2011 to 2013. Thank for your time!

TEDx Talk 1: “The 5 C’s of Connection”

TEDx Talk 4: “School: Learning to Fly as a Leader”

As always, please let me know how I can help you. Because I can and I will.

Take care, Bobby

 

We all have dark days, because we all are human

Every leader and entrepreneur has bad days. In the beginning it was harder for me because I had less people I knew going through what I had been going through. I also had less experience dealing with setbacks or doubts or feelings of failure. The worst days were getting to the end of the work day and realizing I had done zero, absolutely nothing, zilch. It was also hard to be “ON” all the time and it was hard to project success as defined by other people. For most in the corporate world, I still felt judged by them because they didn’t ‘get it’, in terms of why I left. But most importantly, I couldn’t sell it. But I know better now.

I started telling people about all the crappy days I wasted a few years into my small business journey because it was honest and authentic. There was a speaking event in 2011 where we took a Q&A and someone asked how to deal with ‘dark days’. I decided to be brutally honest. It was the first time I admitted how many bad days I actually had, what I actually did those days (or how little I did) and how I felt through it all. It was an epiphany moment to do so. The audience member and my fellow speakers were grateful for allowing that tough question turn into a powerful moment. The moment I embraced my vulnerability and asked for help was the moment I saw the goodness of people and realized so many others who have felt the way I have. I felt again connected to my own symphony (or tribe as some call it).

Fear is normal, but it can motivate. Doubt, however, is the biggest obstacle to every leaders’ and entrepreneurs’ growth. It can’t motivate. It makes you feel lost. But you can fight doubt by leveraging your support network. You can find ways to cope or manage. You can always read your Why, Vision and Mission aloud and celebrate the glorious path of where you are. Best of all, you can always start each day with something new, fresh and better. We all have dark days, but every new day begins with light.