3 Methods to Really Learn Networking

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Having recently launched our first book on Networking — “How to Network Anytime, Anywhere, with Anyone: Book 1 – Live Events” – I shared a personal message about three big announcements I had. After sending, I got some interesting feedback.

Someone loved ‘how each of the three items was unique in how it developed a particular networking skillset’. It got me thinking about the different ways a person could improve their networking prowess.

We all learn and in grow in different ways. However, there are three main methods to build our abilities in connection, engagement and leadership. I shall demonstrate within the context of the actual announcements…

1) Our book is now LIVE on Amazon and Kindle! Get either version here.

That’s right, books! What a great way to learn. You can dive into theory, stories, and deep explanations with the magic of the written word. There are tons of books on networking out there besides my own. One of my favourites is “How to Win Friends and Influence People” by Dale Carnegie. People can learn a ton by reading. But you still need to act and experience.

2) Meet the Authors at Cool Connections big Holiday Mixer TODAY Dec 4, 7:30pm. Both Ryan and I will be giving out signed copies of our new book at the event and we’d love to meet you. You can register here. Use the code BeCool20 to save 20% off.

Is there any greater substitute for learning than by real-life practice? The best networkers never took a course or read dozens of books (cough cough, that used to be me). They just went out and did it.

The best networkers learned from watching others, engaging talented people, asking the right questions and making tons of mistake. All the while, they reflected and added that experience to a more diverse toolkit. Experiential learning usually has the most profound affect to embed the networking tools you need. So go to events like Cool Connections, learn from the best to become the best.

3) SOMETHING SPECIAL: Launch of my Networking Mastery Program. I have just put together a complete outline of EVERYTHING I have come to know and discover about true and authentic networking. This high-end coaching program launches Tuesday December 9 at 9pm. Interested? Learn more here!

This method is all about focus. A training course or program has two main benefits.

  1. First off, for those who have trouble learning from books, have lots of questions or seek more one one one interaction with a trusted expert (vs. the stress of live events), a coaching program offers that and more.
  2. Second, it offers a way to train the relative newbie or the intermediate professional in a most comprehensive and detailed way that can be a game changer relative to where they began.

Most programs offer numerous tools and tactics, go into great details and focus on mindset and preparation to really drive home the message and instil the learning. A training course or coaching program, whether one day or 12 weeks long offer a far better customization and personalized approach.

Of course there is the ‘all of the above’ or a mix of the above approach — usually 1 & 2 or 2 & 3 — .which is understandable as you need to have live practice.

CONCLUSION

The best thought leaders in building connections and relationship building have leveraged all three methods. They read…alot. They spend time at events. They have a coach or seek training. This willingness to learn broadly and deeply separates them as the best in the business.

So how do YOU learn? What methods have been the best for learning networking, connecting and building relationships?

Got any thoughts, ideas or feedback for me? I appreciate hearing from you. Let me know if you ever have any questions too. You can call, e-mail or tweet anytime.

Wishing you all the best on your connection crusade!

Bobby

www.raeallan.com

Twitter: @raehanbobby

SOMETHING SPECIAL: Authentic Networking Masterclass

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SOMETHING SPECIAL:

I’ve recently been inspired to do something very special for just a small group of select people.

But first, the back story… I’ve been blessed that over the last year or so there have been many wonderful things that have happened to me. I am now a contributor for The Huffington Post, I have been accepted into the National Speakers Bureau and I have been building multiple brands like DYPB ’14 – Discover Your Personal Brand Conference, Cool Connections, Humans of Canada – Official and have just released my new book – How To Network Anytime, Anywhere with Anyone.

And after reflecting on what the #1 key element to making this all happen was… I realized it had everything to do with true and authentic networking. (Heck, that’s why I wrote a book on it).

So here is where you might come in.

I have just put together a complete outline of EVERYTHING I have come to know and discover about true and authentic networking. And for the next 12 or so weeks, I am going to personally teach, consult and coach a small group of people and take them on a deep dive in this.

It is going to be 100% hands on and by the end of it not only will you have everything you need to know about networking, but I will have worked personally with you to develop your own network, which will open up a world of opportunities for you.

I have had so many people come to me recently and ask if I can help them with this, so I figured this would be the best way to personally invest in this small group of people and actually see transformational results.

Interested? If so PM me here and we’ll set up a time for a quick chat where I can give you the specific details and see if we have a fit. I can only make this available to a handful of people (to make it the most effective and efficient to everyone involved) so if you’re interested PM me right away as it will be open on a first come, first served basis.

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Everyone Wants Legacy. Do You? Let’s start Sept 25!

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Here are some things that everyone tells me that they want:
- Everyone wants to have a legacy.
- Everyone wants to feel part of something bigger and better than themselves.
- Everyone wants to feel connection to someone or something
- Everyone wants to feel needed
- Everyone wants to not feel lost sometimes as a leader, in their career, in school or in their business
- Everyone wants to have impact
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It doesn’t come easy. You have to work at it. But one of the biggest challenges is that people do not know who they really are. They do not take the time to understand what drives them….deeply. They do not invest in their Personal Brand.
Do you want to have more companies and clients calling to hire you?
Are you one of the 76% of people who are dispassionate or unhappy with their jobs?
Have you recently graduated or are about to graduate and want to get a head start on job hunting?
Do you want to make greater Social Media impact with your online messaging & profile or your in person relationship building?
Then you must invest in your Personal Brand.
Join me for a deep dive workshop in Toronto to help you forge an authentic leadership path of passion and purpose.
I will personally take you through my customized approach that has helped thousands of leaders.
The best investment is you, the best time is now. If not you then who? If not now, then when?
Join me Sept 25.
Thank you for reading this far, let me offer you a GIFT here — Use my discount code DYPBDeepDive20 to save 20%. Limited tickets available!
Register here:
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Has Your Personal Brand Changed Since Last Summer? (yup!)

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Are you a Personal Brand explorer? You should be.

Remember last summer? We had 120 of you squeeze into a room at University 2013DYPBAug12_0005of Toronto campus on a hot August Monday night? You saw 6 panel experts talk about Personal Branding, including Ron TiteKatia Millar and yours truly. The energy in the room was electric, the insights were vast and profound. Those who were lucky to attend told us “you guys should do something bigger next year”. 

We have. 

This year we are having “Discover Your Personal Brand’ – a full day conference on Personal Branding with 30+ speakers, including 4 keynotes, 5 panels, 8 workshops.  Take a look at the incredible line-up and diverse content we have planned for you! Join us on Aug 16 from 10am-6pm and visit the site

This day is designed to cover every aspect of your Personal Brand so that you can truly forge an authentic leadership path of passion and purpose. Some of keynote speakers include Nathan Downer from CP24 and Alfredo Tan from Facebook Canada.

Whether you joined us or not, we want to make sure each of you has a chance to benefit from this event. We are pleased to offer you a special discount of 40% off the ticket price. Simply input ‘BOBBYDYPBVIP’ in the eventbrite registration page.  You can save even more if you go in a group (either 33% or 50% off). Register now!

We want to make sure anyone who wants to go, can go. We believe in our Why: ‘DYPB Poster-01 (1)There are Lost Leaders Everywhere” – and we want to help serve you no matter where you are in life. We’ve all felt lost in our career, business or academic path. It’s okay to feel lost, but it’s not okay to do little about it.

Let us know how we can help you get there. If you seriously have financial difficulties that is the only barrier, message me personally and I will make sure you can attend.

See you soon!

Bobby

Twitter: @DYPBTO
Instagram: @dypbto
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Feeling `Lost`as a Leader? Don’t miss DYPB 14 on Aug 16

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Have you ever felt ‘lost’ as a leader? (I know I have)

Are you trying to forge a corporate career path that makes sense for you? (I tried…twice)

Are you an entrepreneur who is looking to find your voice? (I have and I still am)

Are you a student who wants to make sure you have chosen the right academic path? (I wish I had done this)

Then you must invest in knowing what your Personal Brand is and how to understand & leverage it in your personal, professional and academic lives.

I am pleased to announce the `Discover Your Personal Brand`conference in Toronto, Aug 16. Just look at the line-up — over 30+ speakers — we have to help you forge an authentic leadership path of passion and purpose.

Visit the site: http://raeallan.com/dypb/

Conference Speakers include:
● Alfredo Tan – Facebook Canada, Group Director, Global Marketing
● Nathan Downer – Anchor at CP24
● Bobby Umar – 4x TEDx Speaker, Author & HuffPost contributor – Raeallan
● Marina Piccioni – Marketing Manager at Hudson’s Bay Company
● Fahad Meer – Senior Associate at PricewaterhouseCoopers
● Nicholas Kusmich – Strategic Consultant for Lifestyle Entrepreneurs at Everyday Prosperity Inc
● Corey Herscu – Technology Publicist | Journalist TV Personality at HerscuPR
● Ryan Coelho – Personal Development Specialist at RyanCoelho.com
● Katia Millar – Founder & Chief Inspiration Officer at Positive Fabulous Women
● Don Sagarese – Founder at On The Move catering
● Jahmeelah Gamble – TV Personality at Rogers
● Clare McDowall – Social Media Coach & Strategic Consultant at Socially Good
● Tamika Auwai – Power Presence Expert at Tamika Auwai
● Julia Sheldon – Operations Manager at The Acoustic Opera
● Cher Jones – Corporate Social Media Trainer at Socially Active
● Joseph Luk – Director, Solution Marketing Department at Huawei
● Ada Barlatt – Management Sciences Professor at University of Waterloo Engineering

AGENDA

- 3 keynotes, including Alfredo Tan from Facebook Canada and Nathan Downer from CP24

- 5 panels on ‘Media’, ‘Entrepreneurship’, ‘Corporate Careers’, ‘Mentorship’ and ‘Dating’

- 8 Workshops on Personal Branding via ‘Elevator Pitch & Storytelling’, ‘Image’, ‘Linkedin’, ‘Facebook’, “Video content’, ‘Written communication’, ‘Decision Making & Values’ and ‘Crafting a Personal Brand’


To be selected for increasingly responsibly positions, you must harness your personal brand. Your personal brand, the impression you project, can be managed much like a corporate brand. Personal branding leadership is the positioning strategy behind the world’s most successful people. The art of personal brand leadership is what
keeps senior managers moving up the ladder.

The Discover Your Personal Brand conference is a forum for individuals to learn from a panel of industry experts sharing their expertise on personal branding. Each individual will have the opportunity to network, discover, inspire and develop leadership skills that take them to the next level. Everyone has a personal brand, but most people are not aware of this and do not manage this strategically, consistently and effectively. As leaders, you need to take ownership of your own brand so you can affect how others perceive you. With an authentic personal brand, your strongest characteristics, attributes, and values can separate you from the crowd. Without this, you look just like everyone else.

Early Bird Tickets end Aug 3: http://raeallan.com/dypb/
Use the discount code `DYPB20`to get a further 20% of the early bird tickets.

ABOUT THE ORGANIZER

WHY: There are ‘Lost’ Leaders everywhere.

VISION: We are the Beacon of Light that helps Lost Leader-SHIPS ashore to find their authentic Path of Passion and Purpose.

MISSION: To Discover, Inspire and Develop Leadership in Generations X & Y.

HOW: We achieve Raeallan’s mission through content — keynotes, workshops, consulting, coaching, videos, articles, blogposts, panels and big events. We aim to help ‘lost’ leaders because everyone, from time to time, feels lost professionally, personally and academically. We’re saying it’s okay to be lost, because it happens, but it’s not okay to do little about it.


To get involved, partner or attend, please visit http://raeallan.com/dypb/

What is Your Relentless Pursuit? Mine is TEDxToronto

I have always wanted to speak at TEDx Toronto. So every year I applied via their speaker application form. Why? Well there are many reasons.

- I have a message, story, brand and voice that can impact a million hearts.

- I have built a brand around TEDx having spoken at 4 other events.

- TEDx Toronto, for most Canadians, is the biggest and best one in our country. It’s the ‘big show’.

- Many of my colleagues have been able to use the event a platform to greatness in their career, speaking circuit and getting their message out there.

One of my good friends Drew Dudley spoke several years back. He only spent 6 minutes speaking on Lollipop Leadership, but it was momentous. Eventually that talk made it to the TED.com site. Now he has 1.4 million hits and a successful speaking career travelling around the world. His example, like many others I have seen, inspires me.

I have applied a few times and have had the honour of my friends nominating me.  In fact those nominations, along with Drew’s talk was around the first time I was introduced to the power of TED talks. 3 times the charm? Not really, but hey I have always been one to embrace failure. At least I have been able to go to these events as a delegate and share my ideas and use my social media influence to promote and support the others.

Last year I thought the theme was PERFECT for me: ”The Choices We Make’. I mean I have made some pretty ballsy and hard choices about my career, my family, my personal life, where I live, my business and much more. This year the theme is ‘Relentless Pursuits’. Oh man I love it too! Well that one also fits very nicely. Although it should fit nicely with all of us. You’ve heard me say often “Fight for your Life! If not you, then who? If not now, then when?”

What have I relentlessly pursued? The same things I mentioned above. The new thing I have been pursuing these days is health and wellness with my new #FitInMyLife campaign. Because I do want to be fit in my life and health living needs to fit in my life.  I also am relentless with creating deep authentic connection and helping the ‘lost leaders’ with my personal Why. But today, I want to say my main Relentless Pursuit is speaking at TEDxToronto. Part of that relentless pursuit has been speaking at 4 other TEDx events — TEDxUWO, TEDxLaurier (I hosted too), TEDxUTSC and TEDxRichmondHill. Another part of this relentless pursuit is asking for your help.

I am currently working on getting myself nominated for the next TEDx Toronto event! I will apply again, like I did the past few years. I am excited to share talk ideas on a few ideas such as ‘The Pursuit of Balance”, “Searching for the Best Hug” and “Fighting the Parent Values Gap to not become the Values Trap” and many more.

But this time I need your help. If my messages, talks, connection or work has ever inspired you, helped you, supported you, I would be honoured and grateful if you could consider nominating me via the link here. For everyone who isn’t familiar with my work — I am a 4 time TEDx speaker, author and contributor to the Huffington Post. My personal Why is “There are Lost Leaders Everywhere” and my Mission is to “Discover, Inspire and Develop Leadership in Gen X&Y. Much of my work is giving back, whether its through my Raeallan intern team, starting up Humans of Canada, or planning the large scale Discover Your Personal Brand conference on Aug 16. I do it because YOU are my Why, my Mission, my Vision.

I thoroughly enjoy public speaking and motivating young people and hope to continue to do it for as long as I can. If you guys would like to help me continue my passion and serving others please nominate me here. The deadline is June 30, so I apologize for the short notice. Luckily the form is pretty short.

Also, here are two of my past TEDx talk I have done to give you an idea what I am all about. What is interesting to see is how I have evolved as a speaker, even from 2011 to 2013. Thank for your time!

TEDx Talk 1: “The 5 C’s of Connection”

TEDx Talk 4: “School: Learning to Fly as a Leader”

As always, please let me know how I can help you. Because I can and I will.

Take care, Bobby

 

We all have dark days, because we all are human

Every leader and entrepreneur has bad days. In the beginning it was harder for me because I had less people I knew going through what I had been going through. I also had less experience dealing with setbacks or doubts or feelings of failure. The worst days were getting to the end of the work day and realizing I had done zero, absolutely nothing, zilch. It was also hard to be “ON” all the time and it was hard to project success as defined by other people. For most in the corporate world, I still felt judged by them because they didn’t ‘get it’, in terms of why I left. But most importantly, I couldn’t sell it. But I know better now.

I started telling people about all the crappy days I wasted a few years into my small business journey because it was honest and authentic. There was a speaking event in 2011 where we took a Q&A and someone asked how to deal with ‘dark days’. I decided to be brutally honest. It was the first time I admitted how many bad days I actually had, what I actually did those days (or how little I did) and how I felt through it all. It was an epiphany moment to do so. The audience member and my fellow speakers were grateful for allowing that tough question turn into a powerful moment. The moment I embraced my vulnerability and asked for help was the moment I saw the goodness of people and realized so many others who have felt the way I have. I felt again connected to my own symphony (or tribe as some call it).

Fear is normal, but it can motivate. Doubt, however, is the biggest obstacle to every leaders’ and entrepreneurs’ growth. It can’t motivate. It makes you feel lost. But you can fight doubt by leveraging your support network. You can find ways to cope or manage. You can always read your Why, Vision and Mission aloud and celebrate the glorious path of where you are. Best of all, you can always start each day with something new, fresh and better. We all have dark days, but every new day begins with light.